"Where You Left Them" is out twice weekly. On Thursday's Episode, we tell a real story submitted by a listener or one of our social followers. You'll get our live reactions and Harry's advice, and a chance to vote, too. Comment on here or on our socials to tell us what you think.
On the following Tuesday, it's your turn - we'll talk about your comments on socials and the website and see how you voted.
Listen here, watch the full eps in video on YouTube, and have your say too!
We’ll see how complicated life can be for everyone. We’ll see that there’s always hope. And we’ll see that there’s a lesson in every story for our own lives.
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I'm Harry - I started dadhugsforyoursoul on the morning of 13th February this year (2025), an hour after having the idea. I've been through some extremely challenging times and am proud to have done 'the work' and come out of the other side, happier, healthier and more peaceful. Now I want to reach as many people as possible to help them to do the same. I believe strongly that time is not actually a healer - Work is. I built this entire channel, business and following on the principle that it provides everything that I so desperately needed back then - it's not passive advice, it's active healing and tools. Big Hug
I’m Emma and am so happy to be involved with dadhugs. Harry and I have staggered through some breakups together and I was fortunate to have benefited from his straightforward, unflinching advice just when I needed it. I think I’m still “doing the work” after some huge life changes so I’m right alongside and among you with all of it. I find your stories everything from heartbreaking to inspiring and familiar. So: know that you’re not alone - I’m honoured to be walking this path with you.
This week we meet Alison. She thought that her chances of love were long gone but, persuaded to go salsa dancing, she encounters a perfect gentleman. And a flame she thought was extinguished forever, bursts back to life! Dancing, romance, love - none of these things are exclusive to the younger generations. Sadly, neither is heartbreak, and sometimes it’s for the very toughest of reasons. Get your tissues - Emma says she barely held it together for this beautiful story.
Alison's story reminds us to live! To dance like no one is watching. And Harry reminds us that grief can be healed, no matter your age. As we always say, if you’re having relationship problems, going through a relationship breakup or experiencing heartbreak, then know this first: we're with you. Because you can and will survive, heal and thrive. Everyone who appears on our podcast can take positive steps forward, and so can you.
Big Hug.
This week’s question is both big and life-affirming. We’re asking: “What is a behaviour you’ve forgiven yourself for”? None of us are perfect, and both understanding and coming to terms with our worst bits is one of the best things we can do for our own wellbeing - and that of our partners or future partners. So, feel the warmth of forgiveness and the excitement of an anonymous confession, and tell us all!
This week we are asking Emma to multi-task but in a very lovely way: she will be combining EMDR and breathwork to reset a busy brain and nervous system. As always, she will be giving us her update on the Tuesday follow-up (if she’s awake by then!)
Our quick healing tool this week is this: change your environment. If you’re stuck in a rut with spiralling thoughts or emotions, change where you are. If you’re in bed, get up. Go to a different room, make a change. Listen in to find out more about this super simple and very effective technique.
Do you have a suggestion for a healing tool you like? Tell us here
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Hi Harry and Emma,
I'm playing catch up so a little behind with podcast. I just wanted to say I did my first voice note journal today! Like Emma, a little apprehensive but living in Suffolk too I went on a dog walk where the only ones listening were the pheasants, hares and my springer!
It felt a bit strange and hard to not rant about the ex but felt good to recognise where I am currently. I hope to continue to do this and think they will be interesting to revisit in 6 months time.
I hoping to get your anxious attachment pack after payday but want to say how grateful I am to you both as I feel like what I am going through is both normal and healthy if incredibly painful xx
This story is absolutely heartbreaking. I agree with you, Harry... Alison shouldn’t reach out. I can really relate to that feeling of being brought back to life after so long, only to have it all taken away again. My heart aches for Alison.
Not to make this about me, but it does make it a little easier to see why I shouldn’t keep holding on and hoping for my "ghoster" to come back. What stands out to me is that this gentleman actually showed her respect by giving an explanation, which is rare in a world where so many just disappear.
Of course, that doesn’t make Alison’s heartbreak any less real. I can only imagine how deep that pain runs. Sending the biggest hugs to Alison. 💔